《News Radio》第二季中有这么一段一个同事问另一个同事要不要结婚的对话:
Jimmy : Melanie, I’m single, you’re single, what do you say we get married?
Melanie Sanders : Well, I’m glad you finally decided on the direct approach.
Jimmy : Well, I’m a businessman at heart.
Melanie Sanders : As am I. What’s your offer?
Jimmy : Single rich male seeks matrimony.
Melanie Sanders : Primary residence?
Jimmy : Westchester County.
Melanie Sanders : Would you be open to considering a secondary residence in Manhattan?
Jimmy : Central Park West?
Melanie Sanders : South.
Jimmy : Done. Time spent together?
Melanie Sanders : 8 hours, 5 days a week.
Jimmy : 7 hours, 12 hours weekends.
Melanie Sanders : 55 hours aggregate, specifics to be determined later.
Jimmy : I’m amenable to that.
Jimmy : Children?
Melanie Sanders : One.
Jimmy : Three.
Melanie Sanders : Two.
Jimmy : Done. But, one of them has to be a male.
Melanie Sanders : I’ll see what I can do. Vacation?
Jimmy : December, Hawaii.
Melanie Sanders : June, the Vineyard.
Jimmy : June, fine, but Hawaii.
Melanie Sanders : Nope, the Vineyard.
Jimmy : Is that a deal breaker for you?
Melanie Sanders : I’m afraid so.
Jimmy : Me too. Well, we gave it a shot.
Melanie Sanders : I’m sure you’ll find a better match.
Jimmy : Thanks for the time.
两个人讨论了居住地、相处时间、生几个孩子等问题,问到在哪里度假时发现没有谈拢,就直接不再继续对话了。
或许相亲就是这样,需要抓大放小,直接沟通,看看我们关注的主要问题是不是没有问题,而一些小的可以改正的细节,就不用太过关注。
我们做其他事情也是这样,如果主要的目标能实现了,一些聊胜于无的细节可以不那么上心。