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《News Radio》第二季中有这么一段一个同事问另一个同事要不要结婚的对话:

Jimmy : Melanie, I’m single, you’re single, what do you say we get married?

Melanie Sanders : Well, I’m glad you finally decided on the direct approach.

Jimmy : Well, I’m a businessman at heart.

Melanie Sanders : As am I. What’s your offer?

Jimmy : Single rich male seeks matrimony.

Melanie Sanders : Primary residence?

Jimmy : Westchester County.

Melanie Sanders : Would you be open to considering a secondary residence in Manhattan?

Jimmy : Central Park West?

Melanie Sanders : South.

Jimmy : Done. Time spent together?

Melanie Sanders : 8 hours, 5 days a week.

Jimmy : 7 hours, 12 hours weekends.

Melanie Sanders : 55 hours aggregate, specifics to be determined later.

Jimmy : I’m amenable to that.

Jimmy : Children?

Melanie Sanders : One.

Jimmy : Three.

Melanie Sanders : Two.

Jimmy : Done. But, one of them has to be a male.

Melanie Sanders : I’ll see what I can do. Vacation?

Jimmy : December, Hawaii.

Melanie Sanders : June, the Vineyard.

Jimmy : June, fine, but Hawaii.

Melanie Sanders : Nope, the Vineyard.

Jimmy : Is that a deal breaker for you?

Melanie Sanders : I’m afraid so.

Jimmy : Me too. Well, we gave it a shot.

Melanie Sanders : I’m sure you’ll find a better match.

Jimmy : Thanks for the time.

两个人讨论了居住地、相处时间、生几个孩子等问题,问到在哪里度假时发现没有谈拢,就直接不再继续对话了。

或许相亲就是这样,需要抓大放小,直接沟通,看看我们关注的主要问题是不是没有问题,而一些小的可以改正的细节,就不用太过关注。

我们做其他事情也是这样,如果主要的目标能实现了,一些聊胜于无的细节可以不那么上心。


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